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The Life Changing Journey From Mile Marker Zero
This is the first in a series of articles about the journey of a life time: the journey to make significant change; a journey that has a beginning but has no absolute ending, only a set of pre-planned destinations along the way. These destinations will change over time and become clearer as you learn what the real meaning of the journey is.
Every journey starts at the beginning. This "beginning" is the point at which you decide to go in a different direction. You decide to take an action that creates a move in a direction you may not have been going before. Or, at least, a direction in which you have been directed by someone who has been to the destination you desire to go. As with all journeys, this journey will have a Mile Marker 0.
The Mile Marker 0 on US Hwy 1 in the United States is located at the corner of Fleming and Whitehead streets in Key West, FL. It is the end of the highway near the Southernmost Point in the U.S. If you are here, you must decide to change direction and head off on a journey to another place or you will end up in the ocean; all wet and maybe drowning.
Mile Marker 0 is the point at which you decide there will be a change. It is the point at which you decide there will be no more going south (no further down). It is the end of one journey and the beginning of another. There must be a change in direction if you are to arrive at the ultimate destination your heart, mind and soul truly desires.
You probably do not have the skills, knowledge or mindset necessary to reach this destination but, you are looking for a map; a map that has been drawn with explicit instructions and marked with interesting stops along the way. This map has been generated by others who have been where you have been, made the same decision to change direction you have and have reached the ultimate destination you so strongly desire. How did they find the way? The same way you are going to find the way: by following a well-defined map outlining the route which is posted with mile markers along the way to ensure you get to where you want to be.
The road you travel must have "drunk bumps" on it to remind you to stay on the road and in your lane. "Drunk Bumps" are those small, reflective speed bumps found on the outside and center of a road lane for the purpose of getting your attention when you become distracted or weary. These "bumps" are other travelers you find along the way who you will build relationships with. These people will be available to you, lest you stray from the roadway or get lost.
It doesn't matter the change you are trying to make. It only matters that you want to change. You are now standing at Mile Marker 0. Where do you want to go? Do you want to start your own business? Do you want to rebuild a relationship? Do you want to be free of an addiction? The key to the beginning is the desire to change. Turn in a new direction and start following the map others have drawn for you from their experience of their "time in the seat".
P(dot) Mark Cook is an ex-funeral director.embalmer and current poet, writer, internet marketer, teacher, leader, logistics and Excel expert, husband, son, brother and friend.Every journey starts at the beginning. This "beginning" is the point at which you decide to go in a different direction. You decide to take an action that creates a move in a direction you may not have been going before. Or, at least, a direction in which you have been directed by someone who has been to the destination you desire to go. As with all journeys, this journey will have a Mile Marker 0.
The Mile Marker 0 on US Hwy 1 in the United States is located at the corner of Fleming and Whitehead streets in Key West, FL. It is the end of the highway near the Southernmost Point in the U.S. If you are here, you must decide to change direction and head off on a journey to another place or you will end up in the ocean; all wet and maybe drowning.
Mile Marker 0 is the point at which you decide there will be a change. It is the point at which you decide there will be no more going south (no further down). It is the end of one journey and the beginning of another. There must be a change in direction if you are to arrive at the ultimate destination your heart, mind and soul truly desires.
You probably do not have the skills, knowledge or mindset necessary to reach this destination but, you are looking for a map; a map that has been drawn with explicit instructions and marked with interesting stops along the way. This map has been generated by others who have been where you have been, made the same decision to change direction you have and have reached the ultimate destination you so strongly desire. How did they find the way? The same way you are going to find the way: by following a well-defined map outlining the route which is posted with mile markers along the way to ensure you get to where you want to be.
The road you travel must have "drunk bumps" on it to remind you to stay on the road and in your lane. "Drunk Bumps" are those small, reflective speed bumps found on the outside and center of a road lane for the purpose of getting your attention when you become distracted or weary. These "bumps" are other travelers you find along the way who you will build relationships with. These people will be available to you, lest you stray from the roadway or get lost.
It doesn't matter the change you are trying to make. It only matters that you want to change. You are now standing at Mile Marker 0. Where do you want to go? Do you want to start your own business? Do you want to rebuild a relationship? Do you want to be free of an addiction? The key to the beginning is the desire to change. Turn in a new direction and start following the map others have drawn for you from their experience of their "time in the seat".
Pdot Strives to Believe in the Possible and Live the Amazing.
How To Become Relevant
Have you ever wondered how others keep making things happen? Each letter in the word RELEVANT will give you an action step that you can use to move into greatness.
Read and proceed with 8 strategies that you can begin to implement today.
(R) Reinvent Yourself. Look at the career of Sean Combs. He started off as Puff Daddy. Puff Daddy emerged into P Diddy who innovatively became Diddy.
The fast pace of the internet allows you to create a brand in seconds. The time it takes you to set up a Facebook or Twitter account is how long it will take you to get noticed.
(E) Enjoy what you do. Find the fun in your work. Search for ways to bring the happiness to your environment. When you are passionate and excited others will see and take notes. This makes it easier to make deals when you are wanted.
(L) Learn form others. Research what seminars are taking place in your area. Listen to podcasts and tele-seminars. Seek out a mentor who can take you to the next level. Watch videos of how people speak and conduct themselves.
(E) Entrepreneur your expertise. Use what you do best and give your job a rest. Use what you know to grow. Even if you never leave your job being in business will help you get some tax write offs.
(V) Visit your elders. Life is about paying dues and paying respect. Give back to the generation that has given to us. (Discuss hanging out with Bubba)
(A) Ask for feedback. Golden nuggets of wisdom are found when we ask those close to us how can we improve?
(N) No Your Way. You have to say no sometimes. Every opportunity is not for you. Learn what is for you and not for you. Learn how to make the most of each opportunity that is right for you.
(T) Teach others. Keep your legacy growing. We are taught so that one day we will teach. Passing on the knowledge keeps entire communities and cultures alive over centuries.
In these days and times in order to be relevant you have to reinvent yourself so you can enjoy what you do. When you learn from others you can entrepreneur your expertise. Take time out to visit your elders and ask for feedback. When you no your way and teach others the life you leave behind will be forever relevant.
Read and proceed with 8 strategies that you can begin to implement today.
(R) Reinvent Yourself. Look at the career of Sean Combs. He started off as Puff Daddy. Puff Daddy emerged into P Diddy who innovatively became Diddy.
The fast pace of the internet allows you to create a brand in seconds. The time it takes you to set up a Facebook or Twitter account is how long it will take you to get noticed.
(E) Enjoy what you do. Find the fun in your work. Search for ways to bring the happiness to your environment. When you are passionate and excited others will see and take notes. This makes it easier to make deals when you are wanted.
(L) Learn form others. Research what seminars are taking place in your area. Listen to podcasts and tele-seminars. Seek out a mentor who can take you to the next level. Watch videos of how people speak and conduct themselves.
(E) Entrepreneur your expertise. Use what you do best and give your job a rest. Use what you know to grow. Even if you never leave your job being in business will help you get some tax write offs.
(V) Visit your elders. Life is about paying dues and paying respect. Give back to the generation that has given to us. (Discuss hanging out with Bubba)
(A) Ask for feedback. Golden nuggets of wisdom are found when we ask those close to us how can we improve?
(N) No Your Way. You have to say no sometimes. Every opportunity is not for you. Learn what is for you and not for you. Learn how to make the most of each opportunity that is right for you.
(T) Teach others. Keep your legacy growing. We are taught so that one day we will teach. Passing on the knowledge keeps entire communities and cultures alive over centuries.
In these days and times in order to be relevant you have to reinvent yourself so you can enjoy what you do. When you learn from others you can entrepreneur your expertise. Take time out to visit your elders and ask for feedback. When you no your way and teach others the life you leave behind will be forever relevant.
Using the Mind to Heal the Heart
In Saint Exupery's The Little Prince, he states, "It is only with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye." The heart is not just a physical organ, it is an energy center, a place of consciousness, a space of expanded awareness of the existence of essence, the essence of the universe which is love, that lives and pulsates inside of us. It is our most natural state. Our "other" states are those of lifetimes of learned distortions of the essence of our True Self.
My teacher says, "We use the mind to heal the mind." He is referring to the True Mind, which lives near the physical heart, not the brain. All distress that isn't life threatening is based in learned distorted perspectives of our mental patterns, sometimes referred to as "belief systems." These belief systems repetitively replay like cassette tapes in our mind. Our belief systems can either perpetuate a state of well being and ease, or a state of distress. Some of us who may already be working with positive thinking, understand this concept. But the question is, if "positive thinking" were really that effective, why hasn't it worked for me consistently? Why do I still struggle with old repetitive negative hurts?
If you look at a cell under a microscope its natural life force impulse is to move. If you restrict its path, in one direction, it will look for movement in a different direction. If you continue to restrict its path until it can no longer find a path for movement, it will pulsate in place, its walls will begin to thicken, and finally, it dies. Inherent in our nature are spontaneous creative impulses looking for life force expression in every direction. When one direction is thwarted, we create defenses, we then look in another direction until we can find movement. The more restricted our possibilities for movement, the thicker our walls become. These restrictions and walls create rigid patterns in the neurological matter of the mind.
The subconscious and unconscious mind retain these deeply patterned thought rigidities. These patterns have an energetic dynamic that originated in our childhood, infancy, and uncountable past life times. These unconscious patterns express themselves as restrictions to our present life interactions, relationships and ambitions. They cause us pain, distress, a sense of low self esteem, insecurity and other limitations. As much as we may possess an intellectual, rational understanding about "why" we may feel defensive or insecure in a particular situation, it often does not diminish our feelings of discomfort. Our frustration lies in the knowing presence of our True Mind that senses we are capable of more pleasure.
When we explore the invisible electromagnetic realm of the physiological and energetic dynamic that contains the constricting experience of discomfort, the light of consciousness exposes the distorted cellular memory message and brings about a "combustive experience" that necessitates change. Conscious awareness of the emotional content, life force (unconstricted breath), and cognitive understanding, release the cellular trauma from its rigidified state and allow that once stagnant rigidified energy of the belief systems to again flow freely. It can feel something like an internal shower of tingling sensations, that can be experienced as invigorating, highly stimulating, small body spasms, or fluid electricity that floods throughout the body. This energy then "washes" over the mind, the experience itself bringing new insights and clarity where there might have been confusion or doubt.
This process is not "magical," it is physiological, though our responses to it sometimes feel as though it is miraculous, enlightening, and uplifting. This process is the activation of the body's natural innate self-correcting healing mechanism bringing us closer to the heart's natural state which is one of unconditional love and The True Mind's natural state, which is one of clarity and serenity.
My teacher says, "We use the mind to heal the mind." He is referring to the True Mind, which lives near the physical heart, not the brain. All distress that isn't life threatening is based in learned distorted perspectives of our mental patterns, sometimes referred to as "belief systems." These belief systems repetitively replay like cassette tapes in our mind. Our belief systems can either perpetuate a state of well being and ease, or a state of distress. Some of us who may already be working with positive thinking, understand this concept. But the question is, if "positive thinking" were really that effective, why hasn't it worked for me consistently? Why do I still struggle with old repetitive negative hurts?
If you look at a cell under a microscope its natural life force impulse is to move. If you restrict its path, in one direction, it will look for movement in a different direction. If you continue to restrict its path until it can no longer find a path for movement, it will pulsate in place, its walls will begin to thicken, and finally, it dies. Inherent in our nature are spontaneous creative impulses looking for life force expression in every direction. When one direction is thwarted, we create defenses, we then look in another direction until we can find movement. The more restricted our possibilities for movement, the thicker our walls become. These restrictions and walls create rigid patterns in the neurological matter of the mind.
The subconscious and unconscious mind retain these deeply patterned thought rigidities. These patterns have an energetic dynamic that originated in our childhood, infancy, and uncountable past life times. These unconscious patterns express themselves as restrictions to our present life interactions, relationships and ambitions. They cause us pain, distress, a sense of low self esteem, insecurity and other limitations. As much as we may possess an intellectual, rational understanding about "why" we may feel defensive or insecure in a particular situation, it often does not diminish our feelings of discomfort. Our frustration lies in the knowing presence of our True Mind that senses we are capable of more pleasure.
When we explore the invisible electromagnetic realm of the physiological and energetic dynamic that contains the constricting experience of discomfort, the light of consciousness exposes the distorted cellular memory message and brings about a "combustive experience" that necessitates change. Conscious awareness of the emotional content, life force (unconstricted breath), and cognitive understanding, release the cellular trauma from its rigidified state and allow that once stagnant rigidified energy of the belief systems to again flow freely. It can feel something like an internal shower of tingling sensations, that can be experienced as invigorating, highly stimulating, small body spasms, or fluid electricity that floods throughout the body. This energy then "washes" over the mind, the experience itself bringing new insights and clarity where there might have been confusion or doubt.
This process is not "magical," it is physiological, though our responses to it sometimes feel as though it is miraculous, enlightening, and uplifting. This process is the activation of the body's natural innate self-correcting healing mechanism bringing us closer to the heart's natural state which is one of unconditional love and The True Mind's natural state, which is one of clarity and serenity.
Laura Fine has a Masters Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from San Diego University of Integrative Studies and a Masters of Arts Degree from University of Miami. She has practiced as a licensed Holistic Health Practitioner for 30+ years in the field of body/mind therapies and is co-founder of Lionheart Institute of Transpersonal Energy Healing. Laura originated The Energy System of Acting (ESA), and is a graduate of the Barbara Brennan School of Healing as well as two years of Kabalistic Healing with The Society of Souls. She has taught at several alternative healing schools and developed a research project in wholistic healing for post-surgery heart transplant patients at U.C.L.A Hospital. Laura's career has bridged the creative and healing arts having worked for twenty years professionally in the theater as a director and acting teacher such institutions as Manhattan Class Company, Barnard College and Riverside Shakespeare Company in New York. Having faced, survived and healed from a life-threatening illness, Laura has a recognition and value of each moment of life and compassion for the struggles of the mind and heart. She shares her experiences in her book, "Laura's New Heart, A Healer's Spiritual Journey through a Heart Transplant", also available through Amazon.com. Laura Fine is currently the director of Lionheart Institute of Transpersonal Energy Healing in L.A. http://www.LionheartInstitute.com, 818.640.6444.
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